When I was a little girl, I was afraid that a monster would be hiding under my bed. Then I grew up and started watching horror movies because I didn’t want to be the chicken of the group. So then I’d go to sleep being even more scared that the doll sitting on my bed would turn into Chucky mode or an uninvited serial killer wearing a psycho mask would jump out of my closet trying to stab me.
And as I grew even older, I came across all sorts of other fears. The embarrassing one like tripping and falling flat on my face in front of a bunch of staring people; the phobic ones involving spiders and other creepy bugs and all the way to plain hypochondria.
And then, I discovered the unnoticed yet life-changing one; the everyday fear, the one that comes across so often I almost got used to it.
1. Fear of Believing.
I like to think that, as human beings, we are driven by the insatiable thirst for new endeavors. It’s that drive inside of us that gets us out of bed in the morning and keeps us curious about life. We daydream and start making plans in our head.
Until we get that wake-up call, that – tiny yet so loud – voice inside that keeps going against the flow of our wandering thoughts. ‘Don’t put your hopes up too high,’ it warns us just like a good friend that would try to spare our feelings as we get carried away.
There’s nothing wrong in being rational. The same way that there’s nothing wrong about letting an idea, a little piece of our imagination come to life. It all starts with a thought, a leap of faith and I think that looks like a great place to start.
2. Fear of Failure.
JK Rowling once said:
It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.
Failing is part of everyone’s DNA. No matter how big the failure was we’ve all been down this road at some point. What matters is what happens afterwards – that is how you pull your disappointed self together all the way back up to your feet and rolling again.
3. Fear of Expression.
Sometimes in life, we like to keep our walls really high so we never have to let anyone in. I’m not only talking about falling in love with someone else but on a much larger scale, opening our heart to anyone. That is letting someone we barely know enter our lives, share a bit of our very own world and trusting them with our emotions.
After all, it’s not as if everyone had their heart in the right place. They could walk all over you, cheat on you and betray you.
They could also shed some light and become one of the reasons why this life is worth living. I guess it’s just up to us to judge whether the chance is worth taking and if it’s worst to bruise for a while or never love at all.
4. Fear of Being You.
This world is full of haters of all kind. You’ll come across people that we’ll enjoy judging you even if you’ve never really met.
Figuring out a piece of who we really are, the person we want to become and standing up for it everyday can be challenging. It’s about going out there and stay true to what we believe in, exposing it for others to judge.
So as we strip away the unessential and get rid of all the things we simply pretend to be, we end up leaving some more room to what really is essential: our authentic self.
5. Fear of the End.
One of the cruelest things about life is that we’re told from the very start that our days are limited. And even worst, so are the days of the people we love.
As we become fully aware that this is a losing battle, we try to make the most out of everyday as life passes us by. We spend each day trusting that it will all be okay and keeping our fingers crossed that we’ll be granted enough time to make our dreams come true.
Just like a lot of people, I am afraid that I will not live a life that is up to my expectations.
Truth is, some of our fears never go away. I am still scared to let my arms or feet out of bed and feel exposed to monsters. And I am still dealing with pretty much all the fears listed above.
The only weapons we have against fear are our will and belief that as long as we don’t surrender, we’re still alive and that even beyond, we would have left living a part of us worth remembering. Just like the people we loved and lost, our legacy will take over.
In the end, it’s all about love; no regrets.